Coaching with Dr. Neal

Developing a personal growth mindset

images-3For the growth oriented individual: The following tips will help you to adopt a personal growth mindset:

1. Stop justifying everything

You do not need to justify everything that you do. When you adopt a new behaviour or hobby, your friends and family will ask you why you have done it. Remember that you do not need to offer any justification other than ‘because I want to!’

 2. Engage new people

Seek out and have conversations with people, and groups, whom you might not have spent time with previously. Approach these conversations with an open mind and you will learn new things and have your own views challenged.  This will help to freshen up your life and stimulate your creativity and sense of adventure.

 3. Allow yourself to dream

Every new adventure, or achievement, begins with a dream. Allow yourself to dream. Do not place limitations on these dreams. Your dreams are part of your creative self. If you embrace them, you will identify new opportunities for growth. When you identify these opportunities, try them out.

 4. Understand that you will never do your best

No matter what you do, there will always be opportunity for improvement. There are always opportunities to learn from your experiences and use the feedback to improve. Therefore, you can never do your best but you can do the best that you can at any given moment, with the knowledge and skill you possess at that time. When you understand and accept this, you realise that the judgements of others are irrelevant. You can take comfort that you did the best you could at that time and resolve to learn from the experience so that you may do better next time.

 5. Focus on the experience rather than the end result

There may be activities which you have avoided because you don’t feel that you would be any good at them.  Ask yourself ‘Does it really matter if I am not very good at it?’  The answer is ‘No’. You don’t need to be good at it, if you enjoy it. You are not looking for a record deal, a museum exhibition or a professional sports contract. You are simply looking for fun. If you focus on the experience rather than the end result, you will have a lot more fun and you might, unwittingly, find something which you are actually good at.

 6. Try one new thing everyday

If you commit to trying one new thing every day, you will have tried 365 new things in one year. The chances of finding something you like, enjoy or are good at are much higher. More importantly, you will quickly develop a personal growth mindset where you see challenges rather than problems, and you are unafraid to try new things.

A personal growth mindset allows you take on new challenges, seeing only opportunities for fun and learning. There may still be tough times but when you have the right mindset, you are more resilient. You accept that things will go wrong but you focus on identifying a solution, implementing it and moving on. You know that you might fail at a task but that doesn’t make you a failure. In fact, it affords you a valuable opportunity to learn and improve.  With a personal growth mindset, you are happier, healthier and you have a zest for life. You become emotionally mature. Setbacks rarely faze you because you know that new opportunities lie just around the corner.

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